Sorry, 不是不敢斗，而是为了孩子不愿斗

Just want to say Sorry. 

Your words made me think about myself. 

Let me share this TRUE personal experience with you:

I was eating at Panda Express. ( I call it American Chinese American food. ) I got a fortune cookie; it says" Don't just exist. Live."  It bothered me for a long time, even today.