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刚收到超常(Gifted)班的老师的来信，是学年结束她对班上学生的评语。这个老师先后教过我家三个孩子，评语里面净说好话，这好像是美国老师的共性和传统？

她是这么夸我儿子的：

“I have been so proud of all of W's successes this year. W has an excellent imagination and has the artistic ability to create exceptional products. He gives much thought into what he is going to do and then puts forth great effort in order to produce something that he is proud and is willing to show his classmates. Given the opportunity, W generally chooses one task that requires more time to complete than several simpler tasks that require less focus. During the unit on the Middle Ages, he did an exceptional job of designing a castle, creating a coat of arms, and making an “Automatic Arrow Shooter” from Tinker Toys. I loved his Oobleck drawing. W has good social skills and has the ability to work with a variety of people. He shows compassion and kindness to other students. He is an excellent participant in the Primary Program.”

下面是儿子一年级主任老师的评语（三个Trimester)：

1. W is working to his full capacity in all subject areas. He truly goes above and beyond what is expected of him. I could not be more proud to have a student like W who is such a joy to be around and is very dependable. W is showing strong growth in music.

2. W shows such potential in academics and in life. He is such an enthusiastic learner. I am very proud to have W in my classroom because he is such a role model to his classmates. W is a dependable and helpful student that I can always count on to help out his classmates.

3. W has had a spectacular year in first grade. He has tremendously grown in all academic areas. He has so much potential and uses his intelligence to challenge himself. I will miss his enthusiastic and delightful attitude. Good luck in second grade.

看到老师评语中的“dependable”，“enthusiastic and delightful attitude”等词，我简直不敢相信自己的眼睛：她们是在说我的儿子？没搞错吧？这跟我家里那个成天抱着个Game Boy不放手，或是在网上玩游戏，叫他弹琴，做作业就耍赖皮，哭闹的儿子是同一个人？在家都快把我急Ｓ气Ｓ的小坏蛋，在学校里有那么好？我倒是吓过他：在学校不听老师的话，就会被送到校长办公室去，还会被赶出学校，不许上学！看来还是有点作用哈？

我现在有点后悔的是：在他小时候，为了让他自己玩，不打扰两个姐姐学习和练琴，很早就塞了个Game Boy给他玩（已经升级几次了），养成了坏习惯，结果是现在很不听话，几乎每天都要跟老妈“打仗”。（他的属相和星座都跟老妈相同，都是软硬不吃的主，母子俩人常常大闹一场！）老公怪我对他没耐心，我分辨说我是忍无可忍，一件十分钟能做好的事，要花上半小时叫他，然后他还给你磨洋工，不好好做。弹琴更是导火线，每周都要闹几场！问他是不是不喜欢不想学？要是的话就停了不学了，他又坚决不干，非要学！就这么折磨老妈，搞得老妈里外都不是人。在老师面前也交代不了，陪了多少笑脸和小心？唉！小冤家啊！

他才两岁的时候就知道自己打开电脑玩游戏，没人教过他，是他在旁边看姐姐们玩，一来二去就学会了。观察力倒是满强的，记性也好。常常是家里人找不到的东西，他能找出来。交代他到什么地方去拿件什么东西，很明白。喜欢动手，从小喜欢玩具车，跟姐姐们小时候玩的东西不一样。

跟什么人都混得来这点正如老师所说，在人多的地方是如鱼得水，到处乱钻，跟什么人都要打招呼。外人都说他乖，不知他在家里的胡作非为。两个姐姐被他搅得不胜其烦！

他跟着老妈学中文已经有三年了，跟钢琴比起来好多了。现在学完了马立平中文一年级１－３册的课文，正在做暑期作业。大概能认识五六百个汉字，课文也读得不错。

他今年第一次参加钢琴Guild考试，背下来７首曲子加些音乐知识，老妈头发都快急白的代价下，他得了个Superior Plus，勉强在老师面前过关罢。昨天钢琴课上，老师夸说他的手指不错，不能跟二姐姐比，但还是不错的！呵呵。。。老妈窃喜的同时又有点苦不堪言啦！

他是个很帅的小帅哥，这点我可以毫无保留地夸他。呵呵。。。

为了一碗水端平，公平起见，才应付着写这一篇的。大家体谅一下吧。。。：））