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读围观生活《国男洋男大不同 内嫁外嫁更不同》一点感想

Marriage like shoe on feet. Others can't tell if they are fit or not. It is personal choice. I think we should respect that. It has nothing to do with race. I have two most important men in my life, my first husband and my second. My first husband is Chinese. He is the best, and still is. We once were so much in love. That was my happiest time in my life. I never regret even though I paid such high price late on when he started to have affair. I chose to devoice I think that is best for me and him because we both changed. We were no longer the same person when we met.

Then I met my second husband. He is American. I never thought a woman in the middle age and has a daughter and find love again. But it did. I married my second husband not because he is American or he is rich, but we have so many in common. And he is a very loving, caring and responsible person. I still remember, one time we met outside Mcdonald. He saw a broken beer bottle on the ground. He patient pick up the big piece and went inside ask the manager to clean it up. whenever we had date, he was always 5 minutes ahead of time. Most important is he respect me. He want me to be who I am. Not like my first husband. My first husband more like my teacher and my father. Always tell me I'm not good enough and need to improve. As time goes by, it gets my nerve. I want to be who I'm and I want to do what i want to do. As I grow more and more independent, but my marriage grows opposite way.

But most of all, love is most important to both my marriage. I loved my first husband very much. I still wish him best. He is a good man. He deserve to be happy again. I love my second husband. I enjoy every second with him. Together we have so much fun. There is side bonus, we both love home improvement. That helped us launch an real estate investment company later on. Now I'm retired from IT industrial as Senior Systems Analyst, full time work for our own company. I response to acquire and finance property and design; he response for implement, customer service. He also has full time job as IT Manager. We work so well like hand to glove. I think I'm the happiest woman in whole wide world.

It doesn't matter what race is your lover, it matters if you love her(him). American more romantic while Chinese more realistic. Love can be romantic, but life must be realistic. Romance is not just man's privilege, woman has the same role to play. I think we should not debate is right or wrong to marry an foreigner as our nation grow more and more strong. Its citizen needs to be more mature and more forgiven. This is personal choice. It has nothing to do with race. I'm proud to be a Chinese and I teach my daughter the same thing. I share my culture and my heritage with all my western relative. I visited my mather-in-law hometown, a little German village. While the locals stared at me like I'm a alien. I kindly smile and waved at them. I teach my father-in-law to like Chinese food, told him taste can be cultivated.