给Serena的十六岁生日信
伟丽-拥抱女性自我 (2023-04-26 18:15:23) 评论 (0)读到最后有惊喜！
亲爱的恬恬，我美丽的女儿，生日快乐！难以置信，16年前的今天，三个小时后，你就来到这个世界了。
为了迎接你的到来，助产士在我的手心里放上冰块，教我用呼吸来增强对疼痛的忍耐。经过生命中最痛苦的几个小时后，奖励——一种无法用言语表达的喜悦——终于出现在我的眼前。我没有使用任何缓解疼痛的药物，你刚出生的时候是完全清醒的，当护士把你放在我胸前，你的一双眼睛深深地注视着我。我不知道一个新生儿会如此深入地看着我的灵魂，这是母亲和女儿之间深刻连接的时刻。从那以后，在我生命中的每一天，都珍藏着那个瞬间。
亲爱的恬恬，我美丽的女儿，你生来就带着一个老灵魂。当你七岁时，你说上帝创造婴儿时，会将箭射穿女人的心脏，所以所有的婴儿都是带着爱而来的。这使我想知道你在这个生命中经历了多少次轮回，才能分享这样的智慧？
在你的每个生日中，你总是向家人寻求智慧，而不是礼物。在这个生日，你要求我们所有人，爸爸妈妈、爷爷奶奶、姑妈、舅舅、表兄弟姐妹，甚至是你年幼的弟弟，来分享他们对生命的意义的看法。
我相信生命的意义在于活出自己的生命目的。我们生命的目的是找到自己的天赋，并将其奉献出去。
亲爱的恬恬，我美丽的女儿，生命的目的是服务，而你必须先学会服务自己，照顾好你的身体和灵魂。爱自己意味着爱你所有的方面，即使是你觉得可能不可爱的地方。作为女性，我们常常会在满足别人的需要之前忽略了自己。当你满足自己的需求并感到快乐时，周围的每个人也会感到快乐。
亲爱的恬恬，我美丽的女儿，相信自己，相信宇宙会一直为你提供你所需要的东西，没有梦想是实现不了的。所有的想法都始于思考，坚守你内心的渴望，宇宙会找到实现它的方式。你付出得越多，你得到的就越多，因为能量永不消散，只会转换或改变形式；生命支撑着那些支撑着生命的东西。
亲爱的恬恬，我美丽的女儿，拥抱你内心的情人、战士、魔法师和女王吧！想象这个团队，他们会为你提供建议，并始终服务于对你最有利的事情上；在你内心培养她们，庆祝你的生活是多么神奇，并将继续如此。
亲爱的恬恬，我美丽的女儿，你的生命是最重要的。你说过你不知道自己的热情所在，你说：“因为我热爱许多的东西，妈妈。” 我微笑着说：“那你多么幸运呀，继续追逐它们吧。”“那我要怎么做？”“跟随那条阻力最少的路。”让你内心充满喜悦的就是那条阻力最少的路，跟随你真实的感受，让愉悦指引你，不要害怕在路上调整自己的方向，让你的内心引领你。你喜欢写作，就去写作吧；你喜欢旅行，就去旅行吧；你喜欢美食，就尽情地创造和分享吧；你喜欢时尚，就去大胆地设计吧！你的内心住着一位艺术家，创造是你的信仰，创造出你内心的一切吧，你注定要体验彩虹的全部色彩。
亲爱的恬恬，我美丽的女儿，要一直保持耐心。我知道在这个时代，一切都发生得很快，但好事值得等待，就像可口的饭菜有时需要时间来炖。我把这些文字打出来的时候，也在提醒自己同样的事情。
亲爱的恬恬，我美丽的女儿，你已经活在了在生命的目的中，即使你可能还没有意识到。你学到的每一个教训，读过的每一本书，经历的每一个事情都在为你做准备；你被伟大的力量指引着。人们会不断地来帮助你，指导你，帮助你共同创造你的美好生活。
亲爱的恬恬，我美丽的女儿，祝你拥有一个充满爱、喜悦、笑声、乐趣和冒险的人生。去到你的心之所向的地方，不用理会世界上的否定者。相信自己，你注定会成就非凡。在你的生日之际，我想再次分享我最喜欢的玛丽安·威廉森的诗歌《最深的恐惧》：
我们最深的恐惧，并非是我们无能为力；
我们最深的恐惧，是我们不可估量的能力；
是我们内心的光明，而非黑暗，使我们惊恐不已。
我们扪心自问
我是可以聪明，美貌，才华横溢，出类拔萃吗？
难道我们不可以成为这样的人吗？
你萎缩自己，掩盖自己的光芒，并不会点亮这个世界
缩小自己在狭窄的世界里，
为了消除周围的人感到不安，并无裨益。
我们本应该光芒四射，象孩子们一样，照亮世界。
我们生来就是为了呈现内在已有的上帝的荣耀。
这种荣耀的光芒不只在一些人身上；
它在每个人身上。
当我们让自己发出光芒，
我们不知不觉中也允许他人去闪耀他们的光芒。
当我们将自己从恐惧中解放
我们的存在无形中也解放了他人。
亲爱的恬恬，我美丽的女儿，你生来就是为了闪耀，闪耀你内在无比的光芒！所以尽情照耀吧，宝贝！
爱你的妈妈
2022年1月2日（上午5:00）写于Everglade国家公园
Dear Serena, my beautiful daughter, today is your birthday. Hard to believe that 16 years ago today, three hours from now, you arrived in this world.
To prepare for your arrival, my Doula taught me to practice breathing with ice in my palms to build pain tolerance. Through the most painful hours in my life, the reward, the unspeakable bundle of joy, finally arrived in front of my eyes. No pain medication was used in delivery so you arrived fully alert. When the nurse placed you on my chest, immediately after you were born, you looked at me and held my gaze. I didn’t know that a newborn could look into my soul like that. It was a moment of deep connection between a mother and a daughter. I have since treasured it every day of my life.
Dear Serena, my beautiful daughter, You were born an old soul. When you were seven years old, you said when God created babies, he shot an arrow through women’s hearts, so all babies were born with love. It made me wonder how many lives have you lived to share such wisdom in this lifetime?
Each birthday, you’ve always asked family for wisdom instead of presents. For this birthday, you asked all of us, your parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and even your young brother to share their wisdom in What is the meaning of life?
I believe the meaning of life is to live one’s purpose. And the purpose of our lives is to find our gift and give it away.
Dear Serena, my beautiful daughter, the purpose of life is serving and you must learn to serve yourself first, take care of your body and soul. Love yourself means love all aspects of you, even the areas that you might not feel lovely. Love them all. As women, we often attend to others before we fill our own oxygen tank. When you fill your tank and are feeling happy, everyone around you will be too.
Dear Serena, my beautiful daughter, have faith, trust the universe always provides for you. No dream is too big. All ideas start with a thought. Stay true to your heart's desire and the universe will find a way to deliver it. The more you give, the more you will receive because energy never dissipates, it only transfers and changes forms. Life supports what supports life.
Dear Serena, my beautiful daughter, embrace the lover, the warrior, the magician and the queen in you. Imagine this team, they are advising you and act in your best interest at all times. Cultivate each and grow them in you. Celebrate how magical your life is and will continue to be.
Dear Serena, my beautiful daughter, your life matters. What you say and do matter. You once said you didn’t know what your passion was “Because I have so many, mommy.” I smiled, “Well, how lucky are you. Follow them all.” “How?””Follow the path of least resistance.” What fills your heart with joy is the path of least resistance. Keep in touch with your feelings, let pleasure guide you, don’t be afraid to adjust your path along the way. Let your heart lead you. You love writing, so write. You love traveling, so travel. You love food, so create and share. You love fashion, so design and inspire. You are an artist at heart. Creation is your religion, So create to your heart’s content. You are destined to experience the fullest of the rainbow.
Dear Serena, my beautiful daughter, be patient. I know in this day and age, everything happens so fast but good things are worth waiting for, just like delicious meals sometimes take time to simmer. I am reminding myself the same as these words landing on the page under my typing fingers.
Dear Serena, my beautiful daughter, you are already living the purpose of life, even though you might not know it. Every lesson you learned, every book you read, every experience you lived are preparing you. You are guided by a greater force. People have been and will be continuously sent your way to mentor you, assist you and help you to co-create your magnificent life.
Dear Serena, my beautiful daughter, I wish you a life full of love, joy, laughter, fun and adventure. Go where your heart takes you, ignore all the naysayers in the world. Believe. You are destined for greatness. On your birthday, I would like to again share my favorite poem Deepest Fear by Marianne Williamson:
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented,fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you,
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It is not just in some of us,
It’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give permission to other people to do the same.
As we’re liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
Dear Serena, my beautiful daughter, you are born to shine. You are born with light within. So Shine baby shine.
Love,
Mommy
Everglade National Park
1/2/2022 (5:00 AM)
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